I'm confused. Maybe this is because I do not have a good relationship with the woman who calls herself my mother but has really done nothing motherly to claim that title. So maybe that is what is confusing me.

I thought that good moms don't leave. I guess in death? Are you relating leaving your T to the death of your mother? I thought the idea is that the feeling of being cared for is supposed to continue on when she's not there.

I also thought maternal transference only happened when there wasn't a good relationship with your mother although I guess that doesn't make sense. You can project positive stuff I guess.

I don't know. I probably shouldn't even respond to this when I don't have a good relationship with my mother. I'm just trying to understand.