I think it's about saying to yourself " yes, endings are painful, whether the ending is thru death or end of a relationship, but i still have me, i'm still in possession of myself, i will be ok."

I struggle terribly with endings of any sort but i think it's because i haven't taken real possession of myself, i'm not enough for myself yet. I don't believe in my ability to survive the feelings of painful endings. But what i have realised this year is that ending are a natural part of life and they will come regardless of how i feel about them, so now i'm trying to tell myself that i will be ok. It will hurt but i will survive it, like i have all the other times people have walked away or things have come to a natural conclusion.

I try to remember that people who come into my life and back out again all have something to teach me, good or bad. And i try to take some sort of learning from my time with them.