As somebody who lost one of the parents at very young age... I find this bit far-fetched.

For me what is sad about deaths, especially premature ones is not that "I don't have the person in my life anymore" but because something ended with them. They mighta do more things in their lifes. They carried memories that are now gone. Oftentimes I wish I had my grandmother or father or other relatives around to ask them something. But they are not there.

While i miss the living that drifted away from me, I know they are there, living their lives....

Imho, one should not take death or partings personally. As in "I lost somebody". You never owned the person in first place. You lose a connection, sure... but there is a greater picture to look at.