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Old Dec 13, 2013, 11:15 AM
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Ask him why he thinks he doesn't deserve good things. Is it because he thinks he's flawed in someway, perhaps because of his mental illness and feels because of that he doesn't deserve good things?
We've talked about it a number of times. He does think he's not worthy. I don't think he thinks he's flawed because of his mental illness. I'm not sure he believes he has a mental illness. He just has a profound sense that he's not worthy of anything nice. He also thinks people will be jealous of him if he has anything nice. He doesn't want other people to feel bad. And it doesn't have to be anything really, really, really nice. Once he bought a $20 robe at Target, then he threw it away because he didn't deserve it and other people might envy him.

He will self-sabotage in order to ruin something if he thinks it's too good for him. At least now he's aware he's doing it. That helps a little. He stops and thinks before he does something to ruin whatever's going right.
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