Thank you so much for your reply. How much space would you consider reasonable? I don't know if they are getting help. They have gone to stay a way for a while but not moved out. I don't know if we are... I want to. I dont want to see anyone else. They seem confused and unable to decide whether they want the relationship or not. It's hard because from my opinion if you love someone you love them, how can you need time to think whether you do, especially after so many years. How is it best to keep the communication open? Any suggestions? Thanks again x