Hi,

let me clarify this. Many women assumed that marriage or something significant
that happen will change a MAN. Answer is NO. This applies vice versa as well.

Speaking as a man with depression & ADHD as well. Let me tell you this. We need to be left alone. Your husband can ONLY change as much as he WANTS to.

Unless he's trying really hard to make things better. I pretty much guarantee things will be the same till the cows come home. It's not that he doesn't want to change. It's because depression eats a person inside out. It brings out the WORST in any person of any race, social class & nationality.

It's very HARD for us to change. Am seriously speaking from experience. Though am still struggling at this stage but I perform better alone.
Sometimes, I feel unwanted like a piece of ****. Not sure about your husband.
Anyway, enough about me.

You need to make a tough decision SOON & QUICK. This decision preferably should be for the best of you two. Since, you still care for him.