I am glad that you found my post helpful. Often abused people think they are abused because they did something wrong. It is very confusing and the isolation just makes it harder. I had to be brave because I wanted to protect my son but getting away from my abuser was not easy. I loved the 'good' BF but feared him when he was 'bad'. Other people often don't understand why we don't just end the relationships or how difficult it is to do so even when we want to.