I am glad that you feel a little better just getting this out and talking about it. Please continue to talk and let others listen. Sometimes that is all we can do.

As for the relationship..... Are your needs being meet, are you semi happy, are there children involved. It sounds like this is something you can live with, it may not be optimal, but it does sound doable in your case.

Trust and heart ache is hard to over come. It takes a lot of time. A LOT. I would seek marriage T, maybe with some one who is accepting of that kind of thing. Just keep working n things, nad continue to keep the lines of communication open.