My fiancé left me like a bolt from the blue, with really no warning sign that his feelings for me had changed. A few days before it he looked at me with tears in his eyes and said "How did I ever get so lucky?" He was honestly acting TOTALLY in love until 3 days before he went.

I know without any doubt that there is no other woman involved and feel very confused about what has happened.

We were the happiest couple alive. Constantly kissing, always holding hands, always laughing, endless hugs, each other´s best friend, sex still going strong after 5 years together. He told me constantly how happy he was, he showed it in his actions. Even just a few weeks before it happened he was telling me that he couldn´t wait to marry me.

Moreover, we lived together with my son and his son, so we were a family. We had a home. A commitment. A life.

There was never any fights, never any issues between us. It was total bliss and we were the envy of everyone we knew. All our friends and family were SO shocked.

However, I know we were under EXTREME stress in our lives, and he was showing signs of depression. I also know he was trying to be strong and supportive for me, but did not discuss his own pressures with me at all.

I know that when we got under this pressure, I changed and became anxious and tearful a lot of the time. He has said this drained him; which is his only reason for leaving. I could go into the stress we were under but it would take forever to tell you it all. Suffice to say we had illness, big financial problems, a house move, job losses, humiliations at work and being overworked, loss of a big dream of his. It was a terrible time.

The final straw was when we got hit with a pretty big crisis, that he blamed me for causing. This occured 3 days before he left... and after being quiet and withdrawn for a few days, he left, ended it by text and rented his own house without even talking to me or explaining what was going on. I was just SO shocked!

As he was the breadwinner and I had reclocated from london up to Scotland to live with him, he left me and my son with really nowhere to go. Since it all happened, he went from being the most devoted, caring, adoring partner to literally not caring if I was dead or alive. He literally cut me off completely.

I have seen him once since it happened, about two weeks after he left.

When I saw him, he was a completely different person. He had eczema all over his face, he had hives, he was vomiting ALL DAY every time he ate, he had chest pains, he could not wake up in the morning, he had constant headaches and was gripping himself in pain in his stomach all the time. I have never seen anyone so broke, and he cried all day and said a lot of strange stuff. He told me he still loved me desperately and that leaving me was the hardest thing he had ever had to do, but that he felt I brought stress and negativity to his life and it had driven him to a nervous breakdown and he had to act to preserve himself and prevent it ever happening again.

He said he felt like he didn´t love me anymore, but when he looked at me he remembered he did. It was so weird..he is usually calm, methodical, careful and very, very slow to act. It´s like an impostor has taken over his body. He was crying in the street! What I did notice was that his eyes were sort of dead.

What he is saying is partly true..he did nurse me through a major anxiety episode and I understand how tough and draining that can be, but it also seems like a cruel reason to leave someone. However, he had a legal battle with his ex wife, huge debt problems, huge work problems and I think it´s crazy to blame me entirely.

I thought we were helping each other, that we were a team for life, that we were in a loving and committed relationship. It all seems totally mad and makes no sense at all. He has now told me he needs to stay away from me because it is too painful for him to have any contact. He just cut me and my son out of his life and broke up our happy little family.

His mother tells me he is depressed and is very unwell and will take weeks or months to recover. She says she is trying to get him to see a therapist or a doctor but that he remains convinced that separation from me is the solution to feel better.

You have no idea how hurtful this was, because I was an adoring, kind, loving partner. I took care of him, loved him, was alwasy there to listen. We made love every day, kissed tenderly for hours and we were enjoying planning our wedding. How can he turn on me like this?

Can you tell me please if severe stress / depression of this kind can make a person stop caring about their significant completely? Stop loving them? I cannot understand how he completely changed to a different personality overnight and we genuinely did NOT have any problems at all in our relationship and yet he has broken up a family on a whim? He hasnñt even thought about the kids in all this.

Our kids are devastated, my son and I have been technically homeless and staying with friends and in hotels for a month now. I am bewildered and so shocked. Christmas is coming and our home and family are completely gone.

Have you ever heard of anything like this before?

I am just grasping for answers because I honestly believed I was with the gentlest most thoughtful man in the world, who showed me every single day for many years how much in love he was. He was always so thoughtful, gentle patient and kind that I cannot reconcile everything that is happenning with reality