Hi I'm new, looking for a few kind words and/or comments...
My mother has been emotionally abusive to me my whole life. I have always been ugly, stupid, and wrong--never a kind word. I stopped telling her anything of consequence years ago. Se is totally self-involved. My dad died 1 1/2 ago. He was sweet, depressed, alcoholic. Mother verbally abused him too, either screaming or silent treatment. I stayed close by for years, hoping for something that felt like family. My sister moved away 25 years ago and kept her contact sporadic. 5 years ago when I moved away to be with the man who is now my husband my mother sent a nasty letter to me saying, "I had the embarassing experience of telling a social worker I have no family near by..." Recently my sister, the Prodigal Daughter, and I moved mother to an assisted living facility near us. My husband and I also worked like dogs selling my mom's house for her. When we asked her for some $ she promised us for doing so, she became abusive, saying insulting things about my husband and then sending us a really nasty letter. I flipped out, and sent her a letter detailing how horrible she's been to me all these years. Haven't heard back from her. I alternate between feeling guilty and angry. She's a lonely old lady with no one. But I don't think I can spend anymore time around her. Oh, and people who don't know her think he's sweet! I beat myself up over what I did, wish I had a loving mother. Any comments kind words appreciated. Thanks for reading.