Quote:
Originally Posted by thickntired
Hi. I agree with the boundaries feedback. I was given a book on them by a T bc my mom and I are so enmeshed. When I was younger I had similar problems almost like I had borderline personality. I found myself acting like a chameleon - becoming the person I thought my current friend wanted me to be. It's emotionally exhausting to try to please everyone and it's impossible. You end up getting the short end of the stick when bending over backwards to tell ppl what you think they want to hear. I'm very sorry about your parents divorce and I hope you don't get caught in the middle.
It took me a long time to realize I have no control over what other people think!! I have no control over what people think of me either. On AA's sobriety coins it says "to thine own self be true." I believe this is what gives me serenity and ownership of my life.
Tnt ♥
Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I337 using Tapatalk
|
Dear Thickntired,
Good advice!
I agree with everyone.
I had a neighbor who was having problems and I considered her my friend.
She would tell me her husband will be angry at this and that and I told her to
blame it on me.
This was one of my worst mistakes in life.
I came to find out my friend made me the fall girl of all that was wrong with the world, including her addictions!
Which caused me turmoil with my bf who thought i had problems!
Never allow people to manipulate your opinion of another.
It will stain your life, set boundaries with parents and friends.
H.