I think you are looking at an alligator and wanting it to be a bunny. She will always be an alligator. Its up to you to understand she is ignorant and limited.
I think it would be healthier to see other people's good relationship with their family's as at least they didn't have to go through what you did and are going through. That would be a lot more positive way to look at the situation.

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