NO, you are NOT crazy- it does seem pretty exteme to me. Are you not invited to do stuff with him or is it the depression that keeps you at home. Do you have friends that you could spend time with on the weekends? Or family? It would be really hard for me if I didn't have other people in my life besides my partner. You could look online for different groups and activities in your area if you are up for it. Also, you said it has been ten years like this and that he has tried to "cut back" but can't because of family pressure? Does his family know the situation? I would think that they would want their son/brother/etc to focus on his partner (especially considering what you are going through) and it seems like they may be too dependent upon him if they make him feel guilty for not coming over every single weekend- that seems a little controlling. Those are just my thoughts. Then again, I don't have all the background info. But regardless, it doesn't seem like you are being unreasonable and we are hear to listen!!!