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Old Dec 14, 2013, 09:11 PM
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How do you cope with a spouse who doesn't support your mental illness and is embarrassed and inconvenienced by it? My husband has become so verbally abusive, mean and neglectful since we both retired from the USAF last year. (I retired due to mental illness and attempted suicide & ptsd)

Every time I try to talk to him about why something is stressing/freaking me out he gets really pissy with me and tells me, "I don't know what to tell you.. I'm not a doctor", which is code for shut up and go away. He never wants to talk to me about anything! I can't even look at him anymore without him growling "what are you looking at?" It's become a verbally hostile environment.

I got serious PTSD, anxiety, and depression. All I want is peace and quiet and to be left alone until I can heal and I have no support or respect. He just doesn't care and won't keep the outsiders at bay so I have a peaceful place to heal. I'm not sure what to do about this... he is the type who doesn't think he's ever wrong about anything; therefore, going to therapy is beneath him. Sometimes, I feel like he's purposely trying to push my buttons but I don't know if that is the paranoia associated with the PTSD and anxiety.

I'm not sure what to do... I'm starting to wonder if I'm better off alone. God knows I can't afford to move right now. This is a really miserable situation I'm in. And no, there isn't anyone I could move in with or talk to.. I am totally alone.

I don't think there is anything I can do right now but just put up with this for the daughter's sake as long as I can.. I just needed to vent really bad. Anybody else in or was in a situation like this? What did you do to cope, or change things?
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