Hey. Thank you. It is always nice to hear people understand where you are coming from. I think partly why I'm scared is because I don't want to switch in sessions. The vulnerable feelings are really hard for me, though. I'm worried that I'm not able to express them without switching. And I really don't want that to happen. Mentioning something can be different from talking about it, though. I need to mention this, yeah. I know there are more options than two. So far I have these options:

1) I can dissociate from the feelings of hurt / vulnerability. I really do think that this will result in my coming across as a little aloof and distant, however.
2) I can try and mention them really very gently. Just briefly. Try and mention it but numb a bit from feeling it and make sure I don't switch. I guess this is likely to result in my coming across as a lot anxious and probably also aloof and distant. I guess that he will be more likely to see the reason for the aloofness / distance here than if I do the first option, though.
3) I can write to him. The advantage of this is that I can work on it to convey the right degree of vulnerability and there won't be a danger of switching. I think... This is probably the best bet. I want to be careful in what I say about the boundaries thing too. Want to be careful that he isn't going to be freaked about having said / done what is past already.

Yeah the degree of intimacy changes over time, huh. I guess people vary with respect to how much they need / can tolerate over time too. I know I surely do.

Thank you.