Larry, I started my disability claim last year and it isn't projected to be closed until next year...so until then, I can't go to the VA for help until I get a rating. I could go to the local clinic and hope Tricare will pay for 80% of it, but I already have $200 in copays for other stuff coming due this month... on my retirement pay alone (I don't work) it isn't enough and the husband does not help. It is so frustrating...

Otter, we've been married for almost 7 years. During our second year of marriage, after I got back from a deployment (first one while being married to him) he was really different...distant... cold... and wasn't himself. Things started to go down hill after that. During my second deployment in 2011, he cheated on me and I almost divorced him except I was going through a battle with my ex over our child and ...long story short, I kept us together for her sake. I don't know why...my husband and daughter do not get along. I think he probably cheated on me during the first deployment too but I couldn't prove it. I know he isn't cheating on me now because he is home all the time... probably why he's pissed so much.

And no, he wasn't always like this.. he was so funny and hilarious to be around. That's why I married him, because we had so much fun and so much in common. He had the greatest/warped sense of humor like me. THen... all of a sudden, something just changed. It was so weird. We are both cut ups who used to love laughing and finding the comedy in everyday things.. Now, it feels like I live with an 88 year old codger who God forbid you try to have any fun with or crack a joke. It's just miserable. He is nothing like the man I married. I want my old partner in crime back, not this jerk.