I.Am.The.End....

My son-in-law is 30. My daughter is 27. My daugher is exactly like her mother in that she could just as easily be the person that I described. Her husband Loves her for all those same reasons that I mentioned. Just as I Love MY wife, He loves HIS.

My wife and I are Blessed that my daughter found a man who places his wife at the center of his universe, just as I do mine.

There ARE wonderful men out there who want to find a woman that they can Love and Cherish... I KNOW there are... My daughter found one. She went through a few guys before she found the right one, but she DID. But I agree with you, they're probably more rare than I'd like to think.

But there's something else I should say. Nobody is a perfect husband or perfect wife. NOBODY! It's something you have to LEARN how to do. It takes time and committment and the honest desire to work out the differences that WILL arise between you. It involves learning to know when to compromise and when not to compromise and knowing the difference between compromising and sharing. Nothing is easy. There are no short-cuts. There HAS to be MUTUAL gie and take. And there needs to be equality in the marriage. And trust and respect and blah blah blah blah blah... Yeah, I'm sure you've heard all this stuff before, but, it's absolutely true. It seems that nowadays couples give up too easy. They're ready to throw in the towel the first time thier marriage hits a snag. But honestly? As far as my wife and I are concerned... and my daughter and her hubby too, not being together just doesn't compute. It isn't even a possibility, EVER. That thought honestly doesn't enter our brains. My wife is a part of me just as sure as my arms and legs and heart are a part of me... and I am a part of my wife. We are connected by a bond that cannot be broken. We didn't exchange marriage vows. I mean, we didn't "promise" to do all of those things everyone says in their marriage vows. No. I can't PROMISE to always love and cherish blah blah my wife and her me. THOSE THINGS JUST ARE! I Love my wife not because I promised to Love her. I Love her because there can be no other way. It just is. I dunno. I'm probably making a big deal out of a something you never even asked about or want to hear... Sorry. I get carried away when it comes to how I feel about my other half.

Yes, I'm very afraid for the current generations. The world has changed in ways that do nothing but present some very difficult times ahead for you.

You know of course that when you said, "It appears guys in my age group who aren't already married are only interested in looks and girls who have absolutely no problems or quirks (basically no personality). And they're DEFINITELY not interested in smart girls."It's the same thing people were saying way back when dirt was new in MY generation. Yep. almost verbatim.

True!

Ya know, maybe I should be asking YOU just the opposite question. What do you want in a GUY? I.E.: What do you want in the guy you want to marry? How do YOU want to be treated and how do you want to treat HIM?

I don't know. I think I'm rambling now...

BTW, I'm 60. Yeah, I'm an old dude... As they say, one foot in the grave no less.

Dan