Daeva, you are probably right about the problem being the same with a new therapist. I guess that's why I am still with this therapist, because up to this point, whenever I felt rejected and wondered if I should switch therapists, I realized it was my own issue, not an actual rejection. I did bring it up with him and spent a few sessions on it, and now I feel like we've gone over it so much. But you're right, I will bring it up again, even though yes it does suck. I think the huge fear of rejection comes from what Amee suggested about the need for male approval. That's something I've talked about with him, and I hope that improves too with therapy.

HopeFull, I don't think he was thinking out loud with me, he was just sharing his personal feelings and he was telling me genuinely, and he is an excellent therapist so I'm sure he knows it was a mistake. He very rarely shares his feelings with me, and when he does, it's about my issues, not about himself. You made a good point - I can see how it's good to see that he has emotions just like I do.

Amee, sounds about right. We've talked about the need for approval, and we've talked about feelings of rejection a few times, but you're also right that I'll need to bring it up again.

Thanks for everyone's help by the way, I really appreciate it. I might have skipped an appointment or even jumped the gun and switched therapists and I'm hoping bringing up the rejection will turn out better. I do have lots of issues with males and I've been hoping to work on those issues through therapy, with a safe male. I do wonder sometimes if that's the best way to go. I like him a lot as a therapist, but I'm having so much transference and it's hard to deal with sometimes. I've worked with females and it has felt easier, but as my psychiatrist said, with this therapist, the transferences will "play out" and I'll have a huge payoff in the end. Basically I'm thinking I can get more out of the therapy with a male, even though it is a lot harder right now. Is that true?