We decided that there are times when we need to 'spear up', or keep from becoming too vulnerable, and time when it is important for us to open up. In a safe place, at the right time, with the right person, about the right stuff. It's difficult for her to be okay letting people know what is going on with me, but we are learning to balance. Her biggest strength is self-reliance, and I am trying to learn from her, without allowing her to take over.
Possum, it's funny you ask that, as it is one of those things where she would love to....as long as it's safe to do so. And she doesn't feel it is. That will be something to work towards, for us
Thanks!
IJ