I wish I could help you, give you answers, but I can't even help myself. I can understand what you're saying and some of your problems, though. Winter is always worse for me, too. They say it happens to a lot of people 'winter/holiday blues', but I don't think it's quite the same.

My anxiety's been top notch the last several days. I get angry over every little thing and my mind keeps obsessing over one thing or another. I'm not sleeping well, having only bad dreams and I only feel like crying.

You say you get hot flashes, for me it's chills. No matter how hard I try, I feel so cold. I'll feel feverish and sick, but I never have a temperature--it's always just under normal. But this symptom isn't synonymous with winter time, it happens all year.