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Originally Posted by nanrob
The ego that is the inner child. It's the child-like side that wants to be satisfied right now. Think of how a small child wants what it wants when it wants it and has temper tantrums when it doesn't get what it wants when it wants it. The super ego is societal rules and keeps the ego "in check". The Id is the part of us that is present in the world. Inner child work isn't about indulging. It's having that part of us "grow up" so we stop "acting out" negative child like behaviors (demanding/temper tantrums) while keeping the fun and creative behaviors. When we say someone is egotistical or has a big ego, we are saying they believe they deserve to have what they want when they want it and they take great pleasure in displaying their "toys" (cars, boats, jewelry, expensive clothes, etc.).
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I don't want to get caught in semantics either but I have to reiterate that the "id" in Freudian terms, are the drives that we learn to control with the development of the ego and then superego. The id represents impulse. Egocentric refers to being concerned with the self, which is the ego. You can be egocentric without being infantile- it just means selfish. The two are not the same. The id is repressed with the development of the ego, that is the learning of self control. Impulsive behavior isn't generally validated beyond a certain age- children are taught very quickly to control impulses. We may validate the desire and redirect children in a positive way, but the same wouldn't be said for impulsive behavior.
If this type of T does lead to positive change for you that is great. I guess I just wonder how it works. Because with actual children, acting out is discouraged quickly by most parents. So I guess I just don't understand how re parenting would work or at least be applicable once we leave the therapists office? I have cut before, which would be a childlike impulsive behavior. But I learned to redirect this impulse, not necessarily validate the need I felt to do it. I needed to identify the emotions behind the impulse and find replacement behaviors for it just as you would with a child. But it was more methodical and black and white for me.
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