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Dec 16, 2013, 11:59 AM
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Member Since: Sep 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 5,751
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Originally Posted by hankster
I have about the same ratio. None of my previous ts hugged, except maybe at the last session they would ask me for a hug, which would freak me out. I would be like, NOW?? I dont need a hug now! We're over now!! Where have you been for the last x years? Werent we human then? So i explained that to my current t, and just my good luck, at my very first session, he was giving a goodbye hug to his previous patient, a little boy, so i said, "i KNOW you dont discriminate on age or sex, right? So give ME a hug!" So he did, snd we talked about it many times, and we still talk about - not just about that first time, but about whether its still okay, how it has changed, how it has changed me, even about the discussions about hugging.
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That is interesting since I never really even felt any need to hug my Therapist who I saw for 4 years until the final session but I did really want one than and was very bummed out when I didn't get one. Honestly if I got a Therapist who will only hug at the final session than I would be OK with that (I would want at least that however), I just think that a hug is a perfect way to say goodbye to anyone you are ending a professional relationship with after a number of years (I have done so with former co-workers who have left after working there for a long time). However there are some exceptions to this for instance someone just mentioned that most medical doctors won't touch at all (not even a handshake) but I think that is more of a germ issue for them than anything else (although my primary care doctor does handshake every time I see him)
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