After almost two years with T, I finally talked to him about hugging. I'm a hugger and find a good hug to be a great comfort once in a while. Since I am also a survivor of CSA, we talked a lot about what hugging would mean in the context of my therapy. We agreed that if I feel like I want a hug, I can ask for and receive one at the end of a session. He never, ever initiates it. He's very careful to never make it about his needs.

So, I ask for a hug after particularly difficult sessions or when I'm feeling very close to him. The hugs are very circumspect, but heartfelt. He's a safe place for me, always.