Ok... I'm going throw this out to you because it's what first popped into my mind when I was done reading your post. It's just my intuitive reaction... and nothing more.

I think that sometimes people get very confused because their intuition is in conflict with their rational, conscious thoughts. I mean, what we feel is in conflict with what we think... Does that make any sense to you at all?

I don't know, but I think there are times when we know in our hearts what we truly want but are afraid to listen to that part of ourself. Usually what happens is when we experience a brief moment of clarity and are able to understand what our heart is telling us, our thinking self, our ego, jumps in and confuses the issues. It throws up a smoke-screen of reasons why we should or should not take actiion in one way or another. Our thoughts create all sorts of fears and uncertainty and confusion... In the meantime, our intuition is quietly standing by in the background, whispering to us that it knows what we want to do and what's in our own best interest. But, usually it isn't heard over the shouting that our thoughts are doing...It's shouting so many things at us all at the same time that we don't know WHAT to do or who to listen to. Yeah. It can be pretty darned confusing, upsetting, scary and disorienting...
For most people it can be very difficult to quite all of the thoughts that are shouting into our mind long enough to hear what our heart is telling us. But, it CAN be done!

That's where I would seek the answers to the questions you're asking yourself... if you're able.

Anyway, thet there's the impression that done popped into my noggin... for what it's worth.

Dan