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Originally Posted by rosska
That's exactly what I get like!
I really dislike trips or 'holidays'. They usually cause me more stress than relief and for months ahead of them I just panic about all the things I'm going to have to do whilst I'm there that I don't want to have to do etc.
I wish I had some good advice for you on how to cope, but sadly my current coping strategy is avoidance. Not exactly the best option. I'm hoping to get some support from a local Asperger's clinic and my PDoc, but appointments take so long to come through and even the thought of going to those causes me stress.
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I usually cope with avoidance too. It causes so much disappointment for my family. They would love it if I visited more often. I have been avoiding visits because travelling 1100 km is too overwhelming. Now, I am trying to get over it so I can leave on the weekend. I really don't want to disappoint my mother again.
My city doesn't have an Asperger clinic for adults. I wish it did. So many of us cannot get services unless we see a psychiatrist. It would be great to have support services for independent adults.
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You know, I would love to live on my own, just for the ability to be completely in control of if/when I socialise. Though, in the past when I have tried to live alone it never worked out. I either had electricity cut because I forgot to pay the bill (or spent the money on something else), didn't have any food in because I got too freaked out about having to go to the shop, or just got overwhelmed with depression because of all the stress of bills and organising things.
At this point, I'm really not sure if I'll ever be able to live alone, which is upsetting.
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There is hope. When you do decide to try it again, make sure to set up some support.
When I first moved out on my own I couldn't manage my apartment and money. It took about 8 years for me to learn how to manage money. Online banking has really helped. All my bills are emailed to me, which has reduced my tendency to forget about them. I also give my landlord post dated checks. He always cashes them on the 5th so I make sure there is money in my account before he does.
Grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning are what challenge me.
Getting a roommate would be a huge adjustment for me. I don't think I could do it. I am so used to living on my own. Nobody interferes.
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Haha, all my life I've been told I was just lazy and that I needed to just 'get my finger out and do it'. Knowing that my brain is wired to be this way does help alleviate some of the guilt, but it doesn't really get me anywhere... Not yet anyway.
Happy to share my experiences, especially with somebody who has a Kathryn Janeway quote in their signature. Sorry I couldn't really be of more help.  |
I was misdiagnosed with personality disorder before I was diagnosed with ASD. Apparently this is quite common. Having that label was awful because psychiatrists would not listen and would imply that I was a lazy ***. It really hurt. The ASD diagnosis has taught me to be more gentle with myself.
Janeway always gets me through tough times. I consider her a role model.