I always say that my Ts have shattered my dreams, over and over. I understand the pain you're feeling. I totally understand my T's role intellectually, but my emotional mind doesn't ever get it. I so badly want my T to be someone she can't be for me, that logic goes completely out the window!

When you feel the way you do, you're probably thinking in black and white. That's what I do. My T is either everything to me, or she's nothing to me. That kind of thinking makes me miserable. There is a middle ground, though. Your T cares deeply for you, so she is moving you toward health, not dependence. She's there for you more than you think. I know it's hard to accept that, but please don't be hard on yourself. It's not your fault, just like it's not my fault. Something is missing that we need, and our T's fill that need. It's hard to give that up, but like I said above, there IS a middle ground that can be satisfying as well.