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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
I usually cope with avoidance too. It causes so much disappointment for my family. They would love it if I visited more often. I have been avoiding visits because travelling 1100 km is too overwhelming. Now, I am trying to get over it so I can leave on the weekend. I really don't want to disappoint my mother again.
My city doesn't have an Asperger clinic for adults. I wish it did. So many of us cannot get services unless we see a psychiatrist. It would be great to have support services for independent adults.
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Yeah it's my family and friends I feel really bad for. I feel guilty a lot because I always say no to plans, or end up cancelling last minute because my nerves get the better of me.
The support for adults on the spectrum does seem to be very limited, which is a real shame I think. There are a lot of adults who weren't diagnosed until they were already adults, so they need just as much support as children do really. I wasn't diagnosed until this year, and God knows I've no idea how to function in the world properly haha.
I wish you luck with your plans for getting home at the weekend!
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
There is hope. When you do decide to try it again, make sure to set up some support.
When I first moved out on my own I couldn't manage my apartment and money. It took about 8 years for me to learn how to manage money. Online banking has really helped. All my bills are emailed to me, which has reduced my tendency to forget about them. I also give my landlord post dated checks. He always cashes them on the 5th so I make sure there is money in my account before he does.
Grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning are what challenge me.
Getting a roommate would be a huge adjustment for me. I don't think I could do it. I am so used to living on my own. Nobody interferes.
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That's exactly the sort of thing I'm hoping I'll be able to get some sort of help with. Right now, I live at home with my mum. I live in constant fear of something happening to her, because if she wasn't here I really don't know how I'd be able to cope with general day to day things that she just does for me because I get overwhelmed.
All of our home bills are in her name, so each month I just give her money for them, but most of the time I'm a few days to a week late and she has to cover me. I feel awful when she has to do that, but sometimes I just don't even remember that it's that time of the month again. I find that days/weeks/months pass without me even realising.
As I predicted, with her being away this weekend, I've had soup for dinner (which she had cooked earlier in the week and put into individual portions in the fridge) each night. I also ate much later than I should have, but I just don't notice the time.
Somehow, even with all of this, the government want to stop my disability if I don't get back into employment in the next 6 months... That alone has me beyond stressed because I can barely think about eating dinner, or leaving the house, let alone trying to keep a job.
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Originally Posted by The_little_didgee
I was misdiagnosed with personality disorder before I was diagnosed with ASD. Apparently this is quite common. Having that label was awful because psychiatrists would not listen and would imply that I was a lazy ***. It really hurt. The ASD diagnosis has taught me to be more gentle with myself.
Janeway always gets me through tough times. I consider her a role model.
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Misdiagnosis are a horrible thing. I saw my first PDoc when I was 12, he diagnosed me with depression. Three PDocs after him also diagnosed me with depression, and one of them thought it may be dysthymia (a state of chronic depression). It was only when I had a mental break down earlier in the year and was sent for an emergency psych consult, that one of the doctors noticed AS traits and sent me to a clinic for diagnosis. At that time I was also diagnosed with OCD and DID.
All these years I've been telling them I don't feel depressed, until they tell me I'm depressed and send me home with pills that do nothing, and not one of them listened to me.
Janeway is awesome, favourite Captain! I watch Voyager far more than I probably should haha.