resentment builds up on both parties... people can move past a lot of things. but it seems that your husband does not let go and directs anger inwards and shuts everything out... you nor anyone deserves this. my girlfriend cheated on me after 5 yrs. i found out 2 months ago even though it was just one time... i am disgusted by it but, i have given her a second chance, and i do not treat her bad... she know she must earn my trust back and i am now more cautious of people around me. but i do not make her pay everyday for it!!! i love her and want her in my life, and i show her this as much as i can.... even though i did nothing to deserve her cheating, i also look at what was i doing to make her feel she needed to go somewhere else. no one deserves to be treated bad we all make mistakes!!! dont try and convince yourself its ok because its not!!! you have tried and tried hard to be there and make him feel like a man should... if he has forgiven you then he should not be treating you like a burdon. maybe time apart will clarify things, for him and for you. i do not know you or your relationship.. so in my own opinion i would gracefully bow out and cut it before it gets so bad there is nothing salvageable left