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Originally Posted by Introvert433
I've read the description of people with APD, but not all of it fits me. I guess it is the closest personality disorder that describes me. So far, I have avoided going to see someone recently to deal with this. Mostly the guilt at not being the best person I could be is what is bothering me the most.
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The best person you could be? You are already that. One of the biggest lies we are given to swallow is that we are not good enough and never will be.
When I was diagnosed as an Avoidant, the "Professional" told me that not only would I never have a girlfriend, but never get married.
That "Professional" was dead wrong and wrong for trying to put that curse on me. Yes, I said it. It was a curse that this person pronounced on me.
Dont let anyone tell you that you are not Good Enough!!
Dont let anyone tell you that you wont ever amount to anything of be able to do something.
Being diagnosed as an Avoidant is a double edged sword. On the one hand, its great to finally know what the issue is.
Its good to belong to a club of Avoidants. At least you can find out that you belong somewhere and that you are not the only one who is like you.
On the other hand, it stinks being labeled and having that curse put on you. Once someone tells us who we are, we have a nasty tendency to live up to, or down to, that definition.
We live out both the good and the bad things that we are told about us. That is why do many go to Church on Sunday. There is so much crap in this world and so many that try to tell us how bad we are and everything is.
Its nice to go somewhere where you can be told that you are valuable and have good in you.