Here is what I would say to you.........

First - I am NOT going take all that you said as gospel. I am going to assume that it is very one-sided. So, without dismissing it - I want to ask you something.....

- Do you love her?
- What make you fall in love with her in the first place?

Answer those two questions. And then I think I could offer a FAIR opinion.

Also, I highly recommend that you AND your wife read "the five love languages" - together. Key word is read it TOGETHER. I think it could offer a lot of healing to your badly bruised relationship.

Best wishes to you both.