I don't understand people who think porn is cheating with your spouse. I think it's very selfish and a self-centered thing to say. You're basically saying, "Don't have fantasies. Don't find sexual release without my permission. Don't look at other women because I am the only thing that matters in your universe. I do not trust you enough to masturbate on your own because I don't I don't believe you are faithful if you need anyone other than my body to suit your needs. Your personal business is my personal business. Your sexuality is my sexuality and you must agree to be devoted only to me."

I think porn is both a good thing and a bad thing. It's good because I've always been curious about sex (being a virgin) and I get to discover what turns me on and what doesn't turn me on. However, I believe porn is one of the reasons why I am into BDSM and hardcore fantasies because when I first started watching porn at 16 all I wanted to know is what missionary and blow jobs look like. Now I look at deepthroating, strap ons, and femdom and those are things I want to pursue in real life. I am not ashamed of it, in fact, I'm quite proud of my fantasies. I've always been very intimate with my sexuality and I enjoy these fantasies. The hardest thing is finding someone else to share my fantasies with. And I believe porn may have desensitized masturbating for me because I have very little interest in it and it's more of a boredom activity.