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Originally Posted by DrSkipper
I don't understand people who think porn is cheating with your spouse. I think it's very selfish and a self-centered thing to say. You're basically saying, "Don't have fantasies. Don't find sexual release without my permission. Don't look at other women because I am the only thing that matters in your universe. I do not trust you enough to masturbate on your own because I don't I don't believe you are faithful if you need anyone other than my body to suit your needs. Your personal business is my personal business. Your sexuality is my sexuality and you must agree to be devoted only to me."
I think porn is both a good thing and a bad thing. It's good because I've always been curious about sex (being a virgin) and I get to discover what turns me on and what doesn't turn me on. However, I believe porn is one of the reasons why I am into BDSM and hardcore fantasies because when I first started watching porn at 16 all I wanted to know is what missionary and blow jobs look like. Now I look at deepthroating, strap ons, and femdom and those are things I want to pursue in real life. I am not ashamed of it, in fact, I'm quite proud of my fantasies. I've always been very intimate with my sexuality and I enjoy these fantasies. The hardest thing is finding someone else to share my fantasies with. And I believe porn may have desensitized masturbating for me because I have very little interest in it and it's more of a boredom activity.
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I think the reason people get upset by it or consider it cheating is because it hurts them, simple as that. I'm not saying that's necessarily right or wrong, I'm just saying that's the reason, in my experience. And I don't think it's selfish because those people probably can't control their hurt feelings anymore than a person can control their sexual fantasies. So I think that's where the dilemma comes from.
And I don't mean to judge you in any way, I just want to put in my two cents, I think the argument against porn in general comes from the fact that those fantasies are not real and cannot be made into reality. And even if they are attempted they will never live up to the fantasy, leaving you longing still for more. I think most people would agree that sex should be an experience where you lose yourself in someone else, whereas someone who indulges in sexual fantasies will often not be as interested in satisfying their partner. Instead their priority becomes satisfying their own appetite. And overall this results in an unhealthy sexual ideal, an unhealthy sexual relationship with your partner, or an inability to find a satisfactory partner, as you have mentioned.