"That coupled with these waves of strong affection that I feel toward her every now and then (not sexual or romantic, just deep genuine 'i love you as a person' and 'you have a beautiful soul' kind of affection)"

Totally relate to this, and completely empathize with you. Just had another conversation about it with T the other day!

As far as sharing this habit with T, I think it would be a really good idea, and could possibly be healing and helpful for you - after all, we' are held captive by our secrets. Ts are trained to hear and handle all sorts of information, and it's their job to help us work through them.

Good luck!