Remember Dr Wayne Dwyer or Dyer, he was the Dr Phil of the 1970's. He wrote a book called Erroneous Zobes. I will never forget one line in it, he says some people just say "well thats just the way i am" and never even try to change and i got this picture in my mind of some big ol cigar smokin guy. Also my first ex-h. Its like theyre so sure theyre RIGHT. Very close minded. That to me does NOT describe you. You let the light in to look at things differently. It just takes time and work.