French, I'm sorry that happ to u and I'm glad u r looking at why it caused her to do so. I'm sure my hubby did that too. 4 yrs ago. Thought he fixed it but did not. If we got therapy maybe back then, it might've been fixed. He let it fester and grow nasty even w/o his knowledge. He, like u, treated me with love and care and caution. Which was y I didn't know where all this came from.
I am doing 180. It's a divorce bursting, self improvement and coping that seems to have worked for a lotta people.
I'm doin it for me to protect my heart. I want a happy marriage with him. Not just a marriage with this monster. And I can't change him.
I've come to stop blamin his depression for everything and realising THIS is the real him. Ever since the break up he's been nice and non monstery.
Which reconfirms what I always knew. He's a grrrreat guy and an amazing friend but the shittiest husband in the world.
When I leave on 9 jan probay will be the last I ever see him. Breaks my heart.

I have been concentrating on ME and taking care of myself and being laid back n upbeat in front of him. He appears more sullen than me.
THe other day he asked me if I was ok. I say I'm fine and in return I asked him. He shrugged morosely. And looked away. I told him... It'll be ok. And started talking about a TV show.

I dunno wha to do. It's like I dun have the luxury of time on my side. I can be very strong but I think my heart will burst at the airport. I cry at airports when we saying bye even in normal times.

Am I doing the right thing. ???