can you talk to your therapist about when they will and will not disclose information to your employer? it might be that the therapist can guarantee complete confidentiality (unless it is a matter of your being likely to harm another person or yourself) or it might not. some therapists are very good with respect to either the above mentioned circumstances or a court order and in all other circumstances complete confidentiality is guaranteed.

i guess i don't know the situation with your employer but it might be the case that your employer genuinely wants you to make some progress (so you are a happier healthier more productive employee) and really couldn't care less about the details. in which case... might be a good opportunity to see someone good who is funded by not-you. :-)

> My psychologist wants me to talk about my self hate. Why I hate myself and my body.

yeah that sounds really hard. it can take a while (in my experience a fairly long while) before i feel like i trust them (and myself) enough to really open up. takes a while to get to know them. that being said... talking about the hard stuff is meant to be the way forward...

can you talk to your therapist about what they are / are not going to disclose to your employer?

i wouldn't feel comfortable disclosing anything without getting that cleared up so i certainly understand your discomfort.