...You said, "Or should I grit my teeth and give it some time as I've already given So much."

You DO know what you just said there don't you?

"Grit your teeth"? Why in the world should you EVER need to grit your teeth? Would you say that if you were in a fulfilling relationship? He is who he is yet you seem to think that he'll change - "if he did only this" or "if only that would happen"... If only he'd get treatment, if only he'd get meds... You can play the "if only" game with yourself until you're old and gray and he's STILL going to be who he is. THAT isn't something that changes!

"I've already given So much."? And the other part of that sentence is "and I've gotten nothing or little in return". That may not be what you wrote, but it certainly seems to be what you're actually saying! Is it? If it is, what does that mean?

I dunno... It doesn't sound to me that you've been very happy or satisfied or fulfilled in your entire relationship!

Honestly, the only thing I got out of your post is that you're doing everything you can to make a broken relationship work and he doesn't do anything about it other than to tell you he wants it to work, sometimes.

Depression or no depression, YOU are not his mother. YOU are not responsible for his mental well being. I have major depressive disorder so I know what it's like to feel the darkest, bleakest, bottomless despair and utter hopelessness that a man can feel. I know what it feels like to be suicidal and on the edge, but even I know that if I want to feel better I have to take control of it myself and to DO something about it, which I did... and my wife supported me. But it was MY responsibility to do something to help myself and my relationship with my wonderful wife. It was MY desire to make HER life better that ultimately made me choose to make MY life better.

I dunno... of course, no one can tell you what you should or should not do. I would never do that... I guess I'm just sharing my impression of what I felt after reading your post... My first thought was, "And she's staying in this "marriage" because...?" You fill in the rest...

Dan