Dan. The grit my teeth was b4 the 14th. B4 he broke up.
Guess I was waiting all these years for him to get help medically. He cudnt until few months ago cuz his profession doesn't allow him to hav depression n he kept it under wraps even for me until only 10 months ago.
All these years I thot he had mild depression n he can tackle it. Cuz that's what he made me believe.
So after I found how serious his depression is we met only in the month of oct. he quit his job and Is now able to get help.
So I saw a new ray of hope for all our miseries.

new job where his depression can be tackled with therapy
He will be more confident and thus feel like a man
He will be financially more comfy at this job
I won't have to walk around egg shells in fear of hurting him n in turn ill be nicer n relaxed
I can once again go back to being the woman in the marriage and hopefully sex life improves
His therapy will make him see I'm not the enemy and so he'll stop picking on me

These r the things I assumed, wrongly so, the new situation will do for us.

But the minute he got any clarity he reflected on how sad he's been and chose to leave me rather than fix it.

Aww well. Such is life!!