reagan - thanks for answering my questions. Assuming you are sincere on your response (and I have no reason to think you are not sincere). I think it is safe to say that not only has she quit on the relationship, but so have you.

I am NOT assigning "blame". I do not think that matters. And yes - I think she is being abusive to you. As much as I hate my own response - I think you need to leave her. Maybe not divorce right away. Maybe the shock of moving out might stimulate something.....

Good luck to BOTH of you.