Feralkittymom; I am not coming from a place of defensiveness or self-protection, i am coming from a place of realisation, acknowledgement, acceptance and a ton of experience. I have been in that place of looking for mothers and i have suffered it and come out the other side (with a lot more work still to do ).

Asia, I should have said "some of the concerns" rather than imply that all concerns carried the same origins; I'm sorry.

I think there's a difference between seeking out someone as a mother, acting out in a way that manipulates them to prolong a fantasy, and a T who facilitates that, either knowingly or through incompetence; and recognizing an unfullfilled maternal need, examining it, and accepting the reparative actions of a T in the service of filling the developmental holes so that the need dissolves. My belief is that Growli and her T are pursuing the latter. Of course, that will involve moments of confusion and flexibility of boundaries. None of us can know for sure, but the program Growli is part of seems credible, and this T is not acting in isolation, so that gives me confidence, too.