Hi -- The way you have described things, it doesn't sound as if your wish to spend time together is extreme.

I've been reading that many people who post here do not really want possible solutions, just to vent, so please don't read any further if that's true for you.

First, have you tried making a "date" with him to do something on a weekend -- even two weeks away if he's booked up early?

Second, I too wonder why you are not invited to go along.

Last, you mention he is angry because you are not able to work. It seems to me that this potentially is a passive-aggressive way of his expressing that anger. As well, I have known men who never leave a woman; they create unbearable situations that force the woman to leave.

There's a lot going on beneath the surface in this situation. Do you think he would go to couples counseling with you?