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DavidStrong said:
My psychologist wants me to talk about my self hate. Why I hate myself and my body. Ugh, I really don't want to talk about that.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">That sounds so scary. David, I'm so accustomed to the idea that the client is the one who chooses the topics to deal with at each session, not the therapist, that's it's hard for me to know how to respond when I hear a situation like yours. In all probability, it will not be productive to be forced to talk about an issue you are not ready to deal with. Maybe dealing with this issue is indeed an ultimate goal of yours and you can explain to her that you need to work up to it in small steps. The steps you take in getting to the issue may not be transparent to her, but ask her to trust you and have confidence that you will arrive at that topic when you are ready (if indeed it is a topic you want deal with).

When I think of the convoluted path I've taken in therapy, it sometimes seems laughable. But now I am indeed nearing dealing with some issues I wasn't ready to at the beginning. Without that winding path, it wouldn't have been possible. I am grateful for a T who let me find my path. As he has said to me before, "you know best what you need to heal."

Good luck and let us know how it goes.
sunny