I was trying to impart my knowledge and experience of what you are going thru, in the hope that it saves you years and years of pain. What i told you, i wish someone had told me at your age. I probably wouldn't have been ready to accept it either but just having that information to ponder on would have helped me so much.


I can see that you are actively seeking mother figures from your posts, you were the exact same way about your old therapist if i remember correctly.I can conclude that you are raging at people and me in this post because to quote your own words;

"I'm sorry to just suddenly lash out a ton of anger at your post" Plus i detected so much tone from you too. You've lashed out at others in your threads when you don't like what is being said. and you admitted it yourself

" I started reading your post in the middle and got so heated by the statement about my mom that I didn't really read anything else if you want me to be totally honest. I saw the words but couldn't read them because I was boiling too hot."

So yes, i think you have deep rage.


I don't expect you to snap your fingers and be over it all, i have said that anywhere, i think in fact i've empathised with the hard journey you have ahead of you. But i have also seen you actively ignore posters who have offered similar views to myself. It seems you are not ready to hear what it is actually going to take to feel better. I am not throwing you under a bus as you put it, i don't have that power. You can take or leave my offerings of experience and knowledge, completely up to you.


Feralkittymom; I am not coming from a place of defensiveness or self-protection, i am coming from a place of realisation, acknowledgement, acceptance and a ton of experience. I have been in that place of looking for mothers and i have suffered it and come out the other side (with a lot more work still to do ).

My problem with the therapist in question is that she is clearly not getting thru to the OP precisely what the boundaries are or what the methods are she's using, what the expectations are etc etc. But i also realise we are only getting one version of what is actually going on.


Clearly i am not of any help on this issue so i'll take leave now.