Yeah, I think you are articulating perfectly what your desires are. And, it sounds like you do want an eclectic blend. I agree with alexandra, print that post (and the one after you wrote) out and take it in and make it a point to say, let's see if we can reach this together...

I think I sense you wanted what I want also,someone to really care about what happened to me. I want them to care so much they cry with me, ask me questions about it and go down that dark path with me. But, i don't know how to do it, so i want a guide. I'm asking for a stranger guide to lead me into my unknown self-weird, But I guess this is what I want.

I feel you when you say that she doesn't ask questions. Maybe shes afraid to push and she's wanting you to take the lead, but for some of us I think that can be difficult. I need to be babied a bit whereas others here are much more assertive and confident than I, they are wiser.

Go in with your desires, both known and unknown. The fact is, you've reached a point where you're not sure if she can help you, it sounds like it's something she should hear. She probably would welcome the feedback.

Oh Echoes!!!!!! I feel very sorry for the many tragedies you've endured. Too many losses, I am sending you positive vibes and as much goodness as I can find! I am across the US from you, but you have made my heart ache and I am so glad you are here. Keep going.