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Originally Posted by Shayatanica
Thorn -- I distinctly said I wasn't in denial. And sure, they cheat & lie just as much... Which begs the question. If all people have the capacity to be assholes, why is it that narcs or psychopaths are scapegoated to taking on the burden of evil for everyone else? It must be convenient to hide behind someone else's disorder. 
Additionally... I lie/cheat when it provides a convenience over being honest or loyal. I'm an opportunist. And I prefer it when things go my way. Those are merely tools to make my life run easier! Anyone who says they want to hear the truth 100% of the time is a liar.
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I for one do not think of Narcs as bad or evil - I love my partner very much despite of his disorder and all I am doing is to try and find out more about it. I wouldn't be with him if I thought of him like that. Yes some non's will cheat and lie and our prisons are full of non's. However my interest is why the need to cheat if you have someone you love and respect and I would ask this question to non's and narcs alike? My understanding of being in a relationship is honesty and that applies to everyone I am not attacking you because you have a disorder - I am merely trying to find out as much as possible for both myself and my partner 
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