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Old Dec 19, 2013, 01:29 PM
ilikedesifem ilikedesifem is offline
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Originally Posted by amee200 View Post
If your opinion on political or religious issues affects who you will and won't work with, then you need to seek out very specific T's to work with. A very religious Christian client for example, may do better in a Christian counseling centers where they know their T shares this outlook and will base some of their counseling on their religious beliefs or ethics.

This is why the T is supposed to stay relatively neutral. T's are multidimensional like everyone else, so you have to expect that there will be things that you do and don't like about them. But the point of therapy is that the client has a T who will not judge THEM (unless like others have said, if it hurts you or others or is illegal), not for us to judge the T. T is supposed to be the one safe place a person can go and confide in someone who is truly objective. In a hot button issue like abortion, the T should only advise you to do what you feel is best for you and NOT advise you based on their beliefs. It is an issue for some T's and there are some that won't work with certain individuals (like I said before, some criminals) if they don't think they can be objective. It's got to be very difficult.

My psychiatrist said something to me once that gave me insight into his morals. While I was debating whether to let my H move back in and my h believed I wanted as much as he did, my pdoc used a personal example to make his point about making assumptions in romantic relationships. He chose to use an example about sex while dating (my dilemma did not include sex) and he said "just because you sleep with someone on the third date doesn't mean you're in a relationship if you didn't specifically SAY you were in a relationship". It took me aback a little, since now I knew he might mislead some women to get in bed with them. We were both on a dating site and we were both aware of that, and I wasn't offended by this per se, since it's what I've heard from male friends. But as a clinician I found it odd for him to share this with a female client who was also dating. Clearly he assumed I knew what he was talking about and it must have been on his mind. If I was quicker on my feet I would have had a better response but didn't really react and kept talking about myself. I thought at worst it was a little awkward, so for me its best for T not to let us know too much.
I disagree. Well you have your view, but I respect it and disagree.

"T's" simply don't care about assisting people, but only those they "like".

They've chastised me enough for adhering to common social norms, so what do they know or care?
Thanks for this!
Lauliza