I for one do not think of Narcs as bad or evil - I love my partner very much despite of his disorder and all I am doing is to try and find out more about it. I wouldn't be with him if I thought of him like that. Yes some non's will cheat and lie and our prisons are full of non's. However my interest is why the need to cheat if you have someone you love and respect and I would ask this question to non's and narcs alike? My understanding of being in a relationship is honesty and that applies to everyone I am not attacking you because you have a disorder - I am merely trying to find out as much as possible for both myself and my partner