I stopped having 'don't lists' years ago.

I follow more along the lines of 'needs lists'.
Acceptance, Acknowledgement, Adoration, Adventure, Affection, Appreciation, Availability, Belief, Camaraderie, Care, Certainty, Challenge(to feel challenged to grow and evolve), Cherished, Closeness, Comfort, Competence, Compromise, Commitment, Consistency, Contentment, Cooperation, Dependability, Desire, Devotion, Discovery, Emotional Safety and Security, Encouragement, Esteem, Excitement, Exploration, Familiarity, Fidelity, Flexibility, Freedom(to be yourself and experiment with new ways of being), Harmony, Honesty, Individuality, Influence(to emotionally impact your partner), Intellectuality, Intimacy(deep emotional connection), Love(to give and receive Love), Mutuality, Negotiation, Novelty, Nurturance, Openness(continual openness to each others' uniqueness/individuality), Peacefulness, Passion, Playfulness, Predictability, Presence(to feel that your partner is emotionally present), Reassurance, Recognition, Reliability, Respect, Sacrifice, Safety/Security(emotional, financial, physical), Sensitivity, Sensuousness, Sex, Shared/Mutual Interests, Socialization, Spirituality(spiritual sharing/connection), Spontaneity, Stability, Support, Teamwork, Touch, Trust(to trust and be trusted), Understand(to understand and to feel understood), Vitality(need to feel profoundly alive through emotional connection), Valued(feel important/like you matter), Vastness(to experience a mutual connection with something greater than yourselves).