For lack of a better word, it is kind of a behavioral game. "be yourself and it will happen" I understand to an extent what you're saying but I'm not saying I'm going to completely act out of character or be something I'm not. I'm talkign about minor interactional changes that may affect the way I am responded to. I will never be completely aloof of women's attention to me if they give it, that's not me, but a bit of control in this area is what I'm asking if it would be a good thing.