Oh my goodness.

If you were done therapy and having a friendship after, that's one thing, but if you're still going for sessions, you definitely can't be friends. Talk about a whopper of a double relationship.

She is so out of line with the "I need you" comment.

I really feel for you. It would be super difficult, I imagine, but can't you talk to her about how messed up this is?

If the relationship is important to you, you could see someone else for therapy and then engage in a friendship with your current T....would that be possible?

Edit: Sorry - missed your comment about finding a new T.